Clutter & Chaos

While we enter all of the foundational goal-den bricks through deep relaxation, the fourth brick teaches us, while inviting us to practice the intricacies of traveling in & out of the "creative mind" space. While we are all different, we all share the same problems regarding cluttered & chaotic mind space. Without cleaning & clearing the mind space, it simply isn't possible to go effortlessly towards & then into any sort of change. It would be like bringing more stuff into an already overly cluttered room. Once you put it down, you may never be able to locate it again. In addition, one cannot stay motivated in a chaotic state & that is why one of the biggest excuses not to start a lifestyle change is because one's life is already too chaotic.

You know the excuse, "I'll think about going on a diet or stopping smoking, or controlling my spending when my life slow's down a bit, when the children return to school, when my husband get's a job, when my mother's illness is in remission, etc." What's interesting about these excuses is that the individual doesn't realize that life will keep replacing the chaos with more of the same & it will not be until the chaotic mind is disciplined or cleared, that chaos can exit on it's own. The actual process of cleaning & clearing the fourth goal-den brick will open the creative process, where the answers to what's going on are actually located.

While we meander through the four foundational bricks during any given day, in fact many times a day, the fourth brick is the brick of "mind stability or discipline." If we are having difficulty in our first brick, the one having to do with eating, or the exercise brick or the self-esteem brick, we learn to go directly into the fourth brick to clean & clear the debris or chaos that is blocking in the other areas. Once the debris is cleared, then the Creative or Higher Mind will either bring forth the creative answer to the blocking OR will simply motivate you right into the middle of the positive action. So, you can now understand the importance of the fourth brick.

When patients come to my office, they learn the fourth brick FIRST, but not until they give me their garbage. This happens in the first half hour. Sometimes the garbage is very toxic...other times it's just a run-down of things we've all familiar with; not enough time, not enough desire, not enough discipline, not enough goal-setting, not enough self-esteem, not enough understanding of Self. Usually I don't get all the garbage in the beginning, because we have so much & we continually make more because we are still living our "old story." But, at least by clearing the top of the garbage heap, we can make some space to enter the fourth goal-den brick.

None of this is difficult, but on the other hand, none of it is easy....mainly because we are basically living with a very undisciplined mind, with emotions that are running our show or repetively writing our "story." As we work within the fourth brick, we take charge & the emotional-childSelf sits to the side. Notice that we don't kick the childSelf out or lock it in the closet. It's important to discipline this part of the Self & this is accomplished with the child working right by your side, inside the fourth brick.

The process is a discipline in itself. I call it fractionation because I will ask you to break your day down into at least six parts & find a place to be still for three to five minutes. I can hear the excuses already....but that is the childSelf acting out. When I first started fractionating, I found the most interesting places for my silence practice including the stall in the bathroom. In the future, when you fractionate in any "moment", you will be able to go into the fourth brick in the middle of a conversation. That is when you will be the most powerful.

I'll go through the process in a moment, but first...

A NOTE TO NEW READERS:

This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" This book is not published as yet, but you have the opportunity to read it in it's unpublished state. If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/
A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.

MAKING CREATIVE SPACE

We can make Creative Space in any moment, but it is important for us to practice fractionation. This is how we get good at what we do. First, we need to have "intention & desire." Simply put, we have to want to make creative space. That means directing the childSelf to her chair & having her practice with you. Where you do it is up to you. You may have one particular place or a bunch of places as I do. Next, center yourSelf by sitting up in the chair, fingers on the lower abdomen, riding the breath. If your breath is in the chest, bring it down with your mind. This is the releasing or relaxed breath. Now, invite your body to open...I like to scan down my body & observe the cells moving apart. You can make up whatever image or thought your like. Sometimes I feel magnets pulling me down. Next...place a Golden Egg shape around you & simply be inside. This is your private place on the face of the Earth & it if from here that you will simply notice your thoughts, your presenting emotions & your body sensations. First will come one & then another & then another. Each time you notice or become aware of one, simply notice & then sense your fingers riding on your lower abdomen...ride your breath.

In the next blog, I'll continue this process...space is an issue here.



Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
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Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.

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Inward Ho!

There are 4 basic Goal-den bricks that make up the foundation for permanent change, all of them leading to high level health & performance. The bricks sit side-by-side, each one as important as the other & there is no particular order for working inside of them. Everything depends on the activities of the moment & one moves between them, just as if there were doors in place. I've already invited you into three of the bricks & now I'll introduce you to the fourth or final foundational brick, designed for relaxing deeply, centering, releasing tension & thoughts, in preparation for entering the domain of the "Highest Self"....right in the moment. You may be wondering if there are other bricks & of course, there are many, some of them general, such as relationships with significant others, family & friends. There will be bricks for work & prosperity, spiritual life, home & environment & ones related to your future. You may also choose to have other bricks that are specific to your life needs. All of these build on top of the Goal-den brick foundation.

The 4th Goal-den brick is all about "cleaning & clearing" & then keeping our lives in order & balance. If thoughts are not managed, then emotions can't be managed & without this one lives in mental & physical turmoil. We call is "stress", but that is an umbrella word, not really giving us the information we need to bring order out of chaos. Picture a house or a room that is filled top to bottom with an abundance of clutter & disorder. It may have deep surface dirt, but it's impossible to see it, much less take care of it, because it is hidden underneath all the debris. The mind & body can be like this & until there is re-structuring, it is impossible to make a permanent lifestyle change & this is why most fail. There is simply far too much to manage. Life is complicated in this scenario & what is needed is simplicity that is achieved through order & self-discipline.

People who live in disorder often balk at these ideas. This is because they are still existing in the middle of their mess & so, of course, it's easy to understand how these ideas could make them more tense & resistant. This is why the 4 foundation bricks need to be instituted together. While this may seem like a lot of work in the beginning, it only feels that way because the mess is so big. As the disorder begins to lessen, then it actually becomes it's own "behavioral unit"....rather like pushing a stone down a hill. In the beginning one has to get the stone rolling, but after that, the stone rolls by itself. Sometimes it may get stuck in a rut, but then it doesn't take much to get it rolling again.

Most people who live in disorder have never felt true release & centering, especially ongoing. They tend to live their life on a treadmill, going round & round, but never ending up where they truly want to go. Some don't even know where they want to go, the reason being that their lives are so chaotic that there has been no time for creative thought & expression. They are the window-shoppers of the world, believing that they cannot have what they want, either because they are unworthy or have not been given the opportunities that others have received. These beliefs tend to lead to more of the same, locking the person in a jail-like life. The truth of the matter is that the key to opening the door is right within reach.

Before I go into some practical applications, I'd like to welcome new readers...

A NOTE TO NEW READERS:

This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/
A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.

INWARD HO!

Relaxing deeply does not mean sitting in front of the television or even reading a book. It means being "still", both inwardly & outwardly. It means putting regular time aside for entering stillness & observing the activities of your mind. It means observing the thoughts & connected emotions as they pass through, just like watching traffic from the curb. You are not in the traffic, but just observing it. Thoughts are things & they come through in categories, accompanied by the emotions that engage them. I've written several blog entries about thoughts & emotions, as well as the physical or body components that respond to them. Physical stressors... When you enter stillness you will be able to sense them, in fact they may actually scream out, especially in the area of the neck, shoulders & gut. As you sit in stillness as the observer of these things, you come to know much more about what helps & what hinders. Simply observing is a part of releasing. Noticing a thought, emotion or physical sensation, perhaps labeling it & then breathing from your center, sends a message to your subconscious mind that you don't need or want that right now. If it's something negative, you don't want it at all, but when sitting in stillness, it's important to release everything, thereby opening the creative space & pathway to the Higher Self.

I'll continue this discussion in the next blog...


Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
May not be copied or reproduced without permission of the author.

Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.

http://www.facebook.com/elizabeth.bohorquez
http://www.twitter.com/elizRN

http://www.hypnosis-audio.com
http://www.sugar-addiction.com
http://www.international-medical-health-writers