Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Stepping into a new chapter is like opening a new door on the goal-den lifePath. Turn the knob, push the door open & step right in. There's a sign that says, "start here." But, before putting your foot on the path, there are a few things you need to know, so just relax for a moment. We're always in such a hurry to get things over & done, but sometimes it's wise to just take a moment to breathe & be still. Let me share a few knowledge keys....remember them? Emotional management is key to high level health & performance. And, it's certainly key to managing emotional & compulsive eating issues, be they over-eating or under-eating. . In addition, everyone knows, or should know, that you can change yourSelf but you cannot change others.....or can you? Let's look further into this.
People with disorderly eating issues, including mySelf tend to be emotionally triggered. This is part of the stress/compulsive aspect of the disorder. So, if we need to manage our emotions to manage our eating issues, how is this possible when other people are responsible for triggering the best & worst of our emotional Selves? This is an excellent question & the subconscious mind is ready & willing to answer. In the practice of imaginology or "interactive self-hypnosis", questions open doors or new routes to places in the mind's eye where the answers are demonstrated. Now we are being invited down the path to the "inner playground" where we can closely observe some of the many games of emotional childPLAY. You might remember visiting the "playground" earlier in this book/blog & you might like to return to that chapter before going forward. However, if you are ready for today's visit, please wait just a moment while I share some things with new readers...
A NOTE TO NEW READERS:
This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/
A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.
EMOTIONAL childPLAY - GETTING THE GAME
The playground is always filled with numerous childSelves. Some are very popular & you might recognize some of your favorites in the categories of positive/helpful & negative/unhelpful. We entertain all sorts as we meander through our daily lives. Pay attention to the ones that are taller & bolder. Emotions gain in size & power when they are utilized over & over. It's good to remember this, because bigger doesn't always mean better. There are some other things I'd like you to notice. Remember, we're working hypnotically now, so your subconscious mind is willing to answer your requests. It's helpful to healing when you are willing to see your truths or problem areas. Once they are illuminated, then they can be enhanced, if they are positive & need more light, or you can diminish them if they are not in keeping with healthy outcomes. I'd like you to notice some emotional triggers. First have a look at some that are self-imposed, because we all have habits that act as triggers for particular emotions.
I like to keep things light, so I image my triggers as "toys" that particular emotions like to play with. Let me show you one of mine. I have a fairly big emotion called "impatience." When things are moving along too slowly, this particular emotion of mine plays with some very high intense triggers. She actually looks to be triggered, translating everything in sight to power herself. These could include dust, disorder, dirty dishes, or anything that is not completed. She's quite interesting to observe. Once she's triggered to a high level, then she looks for specific foods for bingeing. I've been working with "her" for years now & she her creativity never ceases to amaze me.
Of course, our emotions are also triggered by others, but others are not responsible for the triggering. We own all triggers. They are not owned by others. We are also personally in charge of any & all triggers in the playground. If you look over there you will see the trash can. This is where triggers get dumped. We remove the triggers from our emotional children by first, becoming aware of them & then moving into the active image of our mature of Therapeutic Self. There is never a discussion or argument with the mature Self, for this part of you is connected to your Higher Self & other Higher Sources. This part then takes the trigger "gently" & places it in the trash can. The mature Self does not act rashly or in anger, nor in fear. This is a Mature decision for the Higher Good & the transition is made.
And, what about the other person? Well, the trigger belongs to you, so the other has no power. We'll work more in this area in the next segment.
Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
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Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.