SchoolDAZE - Where's the Playground?

Knowledge is King & especially when working to manage a specific area of your life. Here we're working with "disorderly eating" issues & there is much to learn. Many of us think we know it all, but if that's so, then why are we still riding the same merry-go-round? Common threads include, "I know what to eat, but it doesn't work for me." "I'm always hungry & diet foods don't fill me up." "I don't know how to cook, so I have to eat out." "I'm a student & have to eat in the cafeteria." "I'm very social & I can't give that up to eat healthy." "It's embarrassing to eat differently from others."

The above fall into the category of those little " mind-directing or suggestive" stories or metaphors. We've entertained some of these before. If you've been keeping up with the blog/workshop you already know that these are "small belief vignettes", but in the subconscious mind, they appear like "paver stones", lining the path to the doors they support. These particular stories are leading down the path of disease & death. It's a dark path. Each time you step on these paver stones, you get deeper into trouble. They are quiet, dangerous manipulative thoughts or beliefs. Up to today we've been working in the Theater of the Mind. This is an example of a powerful "reframe" for refocusing the subconscious mind & then reprogramming the inner files. Today we'll add another powerful reframer, that of the "school house."

NOTE TO NEW READERS:

This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/
A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.

THE SCHOOL HOUSE

If you have been working along with me, you already have an image in your mind for your Goal-den Path & the Gardens. We've been in the major garden, the Mindbody Health Garden & I have given you a brief introduction to some of the other gardens that are found here. You might remember that the Goal-den Path is a metaphor for the different areas of your life. It's an organizational metaphor that allows you to review & to put things in order efficiently & effectively. It's also a tool for managing your emotional childSelves. Remember them? I always walk down the path a bit & then place an image of the School House in it's own distinct area. Since you will be utilizing this focus image over & over, spend a bit of time detailing it so it is pleasing to your subconscious mind. The inner mind is child-like & playful, liking bright colors & inventive design. If you are new to developing mind imagery, relax & just let your creative self put it together for you. If you simply "move out of the way" you may be surprised about what images pop up for you. Take this as a good opportunity to release any need to control.

When working hypnotically, I like to be in a disassociative stance, just like in the Theater of the Mind, when sitting in the Director seat. Since this is a different image, I like to imagine the school house scene on a "model or diorama" board. Then I can observe what's going on, when I'm ready, stop the action & move into the re-programming, just like the Theater of the Mind. Also, it's rather fun to pick up those little emotional childSelves by their shirts & move them somewhere else.

READY....FIRST BELL

The emotional childSelves, both positive & negative-based, have arrived at the "school house." While there is some excitement in the air about attending class, there are several emotions that have little interest in getting down to business, preferring to either be absent or to only play. It's important to know that we all have these emotions, even though you may believe that you are the only one. Keep in mind that these are more obvious in some people, than in others, many living secret lives inside the nicest of people. These are "procrastinating" emotions childSelves, often very subborn, the reason being that they have been left to these games in the past, thereby making them even stronger. But, you already have practice dealing with strong, obstinate emotional childSelves. You know that you are the writer, director, producer of your life & while this is a different focus tool, your position remains the same. You are in charge. This is your life & what you say is the law of this land. This is why we practice disassociation. Once the childSelf lives in an "outside of you image", it is easier to self-discipline. Also remember that you work alongside of your Therapeutic Self who is enlightened by your Higher Self or Power. Your Unbalanced Self is no longer working against you, but instead, delivers ongoing insight in relation to the emotional childSelves.

The Head Teacher is ringing the school bell. All emotional childSelves immediately fall into line. Absolute quiet prevails. The Head Teacher is quietly assertive, leaving no doubt as to who is in charge. I'd like you to look closely at his/her image....closer now....you will see/sense yourSelf; not your actorSelf, but your trueSelf. The emotional childSelves enter the classroom, maintaining their discipline & yes....happy to do so. Emotions prefer to be disciplined because this makes "their" life easier. It is much easier for all parts to be balanced & that includes both mind & body.

School is in session now & the lessons will begin shortly. Everyone is in their seats, ready & attentive. Yes, there is time for play, but that time is not now. Everything in it's correct time-slot.

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Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
May not be copied or reproduced without permission of the author.

Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.

http://www.hypnosis-audio.com
http://www.sugar-addiction.com
http://www.international-medical-health-writers.com

Silly Little Stories or Oreos ARE Food!

When working towards successful outcomes, little " mind-directing or suggestive" stories or metaphors can mean a lot. These are "small belief vignettes", but in the subconscious mind, they appear like "paver stones", lining the path to the doors they support. Good news is they are supporting the path towards health, but not so good news if they are heading down the disease path. Perhaps they are yet another one of those major reasons why certain goals, especially those in the lifestyle change area, are difficult to achieve... for the little stories are not really stories at all, but instead, tripping stones in disguise. Stepping on them changes your direction. Here's another way to think of them....as quiet, but dangerous manipulators. In this area of my book we are working with the "difficult childSelf" who tends to have a whole library full of little stories, some going in one direction, others just the opposite, but unfortunately the difficult childSelf's most favorite stories are those that support unsavory behaviors & that's what makes them so popular with the unbalanced Self. As you become more aware & awake for them, you might find them quite amusin. You may have even caught yourself laughing when they are enacted because what you're admiring is the brilliant creativity of this aspect of your emotional childSelf.

NOTE TO NEW READERS:

This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/
A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.

ORIGINAL SILLY STORIES & THEIR AUTHORS

I must admit, I tend to like to hear these silly stories,for many of them are certainly entertaining. The funniest ones are often told to me by people who can hardly keep a straight face. That is the level of their ridiculousness. "Oreo's are food" is one of these examples. Well, of course, we could agree that oreos are food, but that's not the point. Oreos, no matter how much we might like them, are empty nutrition. They not only have nothing to offer, but they can put the body systems in danger, not only in the moment, but down the pike. Remember, everything we eat or drink has a lasting effect. No one gets away free. "So," says the defense childSelf, "are you saying that one little oreo cookie can k-i-l-l you?" Oh the drama of the childSelf? This just adds to the flavoring of the "Oreo as Food" Vignette.

The oreo story has many applications. The choice is determined by what the emotional childSelf, or storyteller of the moment plans to achieve. If in the supermarket, the goal is to get the oreo package off the shelf & into the cart. Sometimes this is easy, other times not so easy. It depends on Your emotional marinade. I know that you know what I'm talking about here. Remember, I've been in this scenario as well. One has to secretly admire the cunningness of the creative childSelf, as he or she pushes your appropriate buttons, sending the near-perfect, emotionally charged messages through your thought channels, even stimulating the body to respond with supreme accuracy. Case in point; you might not even remember putting the oreo package in your cart, only noticing it when unpacking your groceries. Now how did that happen? Another application is convincing you that the oreo's are for someone else. That's a very popular one & is often applied to other empty foods. Then, there is the "shared oreo"....someone else knows you love them & insists that you eat it right in that moment. If not, your friendship is over. Pay attention to the level of drama employed by the emotional childSelf.

While many stories are about food, this is certainly not the only area for their creative development. When learning to become aware of them, you will find them carefully woven throughout your life. Sometimes we label them excuses, but they are much more than that. They are carefully crafted, artistic endeavors that are marinated in pure emotion for great impact. Let me share one of mine with you. In the past, I had developed a phobia to exercise. This followed a serious illness that lasted quite a while. When I was medically cleared to return to the gym, the stories began playing in my head. "You shouldn't exercise yet. They made a mistake. You'll drop dead on the treadmill. You don't have to exercise to be well. You're thin enough. Exercise is not good for everybody. The ambulance will come to get you." These stories were filled with very vivid images built on the titles, some of them truly realistic & frightening. Left alone, my personal emotional childSelf, could have had tremendous impact on my full recovery, even leading me into an untoward medical accident, for make no mistake, we get what we think about!

LET'S GET THERAPEUTIC
READY ACTION

It's time to return to your position as Director. You already know the way & most likely you are already settled in your seat, ready to begin. Direct the curtain to open. Your Therapeutic Self has a list of stories that will be very familiar to you. The difficult childSelf who made up the story is on the stage directing the action. Your actorSelf is present, keenly observing the story in action...in fact, too keenly. This is one of the problems. Play close attention to how intent the childSelf is in getting the idea across. For the childSelf, there are no boundaries.....doing whatever it takes. The amount of fear or displeasure is of no consequence. There isn't any conscience. It's very important to key into this performance, because most likely you have many stories in this same genre. When you feel that you've seen or experienced enough & truly get the point here, direct the action to stop. When you are in the Theater of the Mind, in the Director's seat, all parts of you know that you are in charge; no one else. The action has stopped & the cast is waiting for your direction. If there seems to be too much to change, simply dismiss the whole production. Then, design a new performance based on what you would like to achieve. Pay attention to details....the more the better. Remember, you are programming your mind to take you forward, perhaps to an even higher level than you ever considered for yourSelf. Now & here are your opportunities to gift yourSelf in this way.

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Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
May not be copied or reproduced without permission of the author.

Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.

http://www.hypnosis-audio.com
http://www.sugar-addiction.com
http://www.international-medical-health-writers.com

Nursing a Bad Attitude or Arugula Sucks!

When working towards successful outcomes, attitude can be everything. Attitudes are like marinades, determining both emotional & physical tonality of life. Perhaps this is one of the major reasons why certain goals, especially those in the lifestyle change arena, are difficult to achieve...the marinate is bitter & hard to swallow. Here we are working with the "difficult childSelf" who tends to have a whole stockpile of issues, some going way, way back. Bringing these out of the closet & into the light is key to self-management. And, it's the responsible thing to do. This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/

NOTE TO NEW READERS:

A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.

SAVORY & UNSAVORY MARINADES

The childSelf speaks in our thoughts & through our verbalization. It also speaks through our attitudes that can also be read in the level of tension in the body. Since it's difficult for us to see ourselves, it helps to be an observer of others & their attitudes. Then, we can ask our own Therapeutic Self or subconscious mind to classify those attitudes we want versus those that we don't want. Sometimes that's all it takes to "shift" out of darkness & into the light. Like anything else, it takes practice, but you will not be disappointed. As attitudes or moods shift, thoughts change & motivation is enhanced. Remember, it only takes 1/200th of a second to change anything & everything. This is not about judging others; it's about making it very clear to your own Self, as to the direction in which you choose to follow. Here we have chosen to travel towards health & away from disease.

Emotional marinades are also shared in both directions. Your mood or attitude flows towards others, including your environment. You might notice it in your level of organization or tendency towards messiness or clutter. The same happens with moods & attitudes of others. As these flow towards you, your body literally absorbs them.......unless you know how to protect yourself from being dipped in unsavory marinade. I think it's very important to keep an eye on the marinade you are producing, not only because it will reflect back to you in even larger portions, but it blocks your entrance into the "hall of creativity." This is a place we'll be visiting later on in our work together.

When changing lifestyle behaviors, it's so important to stay in good emotional balance. When the unbalanced Self & negative emotional states are running the "show", the body & mind work against the newly installed behaviors. There is a huge tendency to go back to old, destructive mind programs, many of them on auto-pilot. These can be sensed by a compulsive pull towards disorderly behaviors, including bingeing, over-eating, making poor food choices & even secret eating issues. If these are reinforced, they simply become stronger & more difficult to break. The subconscious mind actually believes that this is what you want & the new behaviors you have adopted, are simply not the way you choose to go. Obviously, nothing could be further from the truth, especially if you're reading this book. Who would choose to take the path towards disease or destruction? No one I know.

THE UNDISCIPLINED CHILDSELF & IT'S NASTY MOUTH

Unfortunately, we can get easily zapped by the undisciplined childSelf who can have a very nasty tongue. Some thoughts that get played out in the mind were placed a very long time ago, perhaps by others or by yourSelf. All thoughts have emotional marinade, so if you play a nasty thought, the marinade is bitter. Instead, play a healthy, motivational thought, thereby treating your total mind & body to a delicious bite in the moment. Remember, an emotionalized image is worth hours of therapy. Making your life more pleasant while continually going towards healthy outcomes is all within your power. Let's go ahead & direct some discipline that will allow you to "shift" out of a distasteful marinade & into another more tasty version.


ACT 3 SCENE 1
ARUGULA SUCKS !

Enter the Theater of the Mind & take your Directorial Seat, knowing intuitively that you are in charge here & that you have the power to change what doesn't work & to design your life as you choose it to be. Sense that power now. Even though you are just reading these words, your subconscious mind is busy following your suggestions or commands. It's as simple as that. Your power is hidden in the moments that flow....as you emply Heightened Awareness, the moments are seen with clarity, thereby giving you the opportunity to "shift" & then move forward. Moments following "shifting" are especially creative because they are re-fired with new energy that has been transmuted from the old, tired energy. You can make as many of these power-filled moments as you choose.

Ask the curtain to open now & notice that your Unbalanced Self has ushered in certain emotional children that have foul-mouths. Remember that your Unbalanced Self is now on your side. You have befriended this part of you & it is now open to being helpful, realizing that you are not going to criticize or beat-up on this part of you. Never underestimate the power of this part who knows all the little dark corners that need to be cleaned out for high level success to be achieved. Now tune into the vulgarities of the negative-based emotional children. Some have been ushered to a healthy eating table. You can hear them, as well as read their thoughts. "Arugula sucks! I choke on green stuff. I won't eat any of this !@#$. I want what I want. I'll throw up if I have to eat this." Just a few examples. Others might be a bit more tame, but don't be fooled. "I'll eat it but I won't like it. I'll get something else later. I will go out for a newspaper & eat cookies in the car. No one will know. I'll pretend to be good, but only I know the truth about how incapable I am of eating healthy & exercising. I'll never succeed & I'll never be a healthy weight. I'm a lost cause."

You already know that arguing & fighting doesn't work, so what does work? Notice that your Therapeutic Self has entered. Sense the "shift" of energy. This part of yourSelf is balanced & assertive. Pay attention to the interaction with the emotional children. Peace & gentleness being delivered. The Therapeutic Self engages the Higher Self or Power & healing light fills the stage. Black drops exit the fingers of the unbalanced emotional states & a glow fills them. Sense it yourSelf. In the practice of hypnotherapy, we can change or shift very quickly. This is a powerful exercise & I suggest that you utilize "in the moment" each time you notice an unsavory marinade playing out.

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Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
May not be copied or reproduced without permission of the author.

Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.

http://www.hypnosis-audio.com
http://www.sugar-addiction.com
http://www.international-medical-health-writers.com

Difficult Child Self

Thought we were through with the Compulsive Crazies? Not so fast. There are plenty more hanging out in the wings of the theater. We've been looking around the workplace, but I'd like to touch on some very special personal childSelves that many of you will recognize. All of these Selves & more can be found in my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/

NOTE TO NEW READERS:

A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.

ENTER THE DIFFICULT CHILDSELF
MIND TEMPER TANTRUMS

BUT I WANT THAT PIZZA!!

We've all had the pleasure to screaming, manipulative, out of control children one time or another. The supermarket is a breeding ground for them, but one doesn't even need to leave the house to experience a good dose of what they have to offer. We all have a sizable group of them hanging out in our very own thought processes. I've introduced you to several in this workshop/blog & we are about to meet up with some other ones you might recognize.

Difficult Child-Selves are triggered by the presence of other emotions & the environment. Some triggers are on auto-pilot. For example, when I go food shopping, I often have compulsive thoughts regarding the purchase of ice cream & bakery goods. I rarely have compulsive thoughts at the fish or meat counters. And, I know I'm not alone. The next time you're in the bakery, observe the behaviors of those around you. It's almost as if just breathing in the sugar sets off some sort of hyper-reactionary behavior. People tend to be impatient, pushy & determined to secure that last brownie. When driving home from work, I often hear the inner screams to stop at the pizza place. That child-Self of mine is so completely obnoxious that I used to stop the car at the side of the road to bring "her" back into balance.

Some of the images I'm presenting may seem a bit "over the top", but for those who know what I'm discussing here....this is not "over the top." Difficult emotional childSelves drive people crazy, keep them on the path to the disease door & take away their right to experience high level health & performance. Difficult childSelves lower self-image & self-esteem & can even destroy relationships. Imagine fighting with someone all day long & then going home to be with family or friends. What kind of energy can one bring to the experience? In addition, when the difficult childSelf is not disciplined, no leadership or parenting exists...to the Self, nor to others. It is simply not possible to teach others, especially children, if one is out of balance, living under the power of the difficult-child.

THERAPEUTIC MATTERS
RETURN TO BALANCE

It doesn't work to ignore or punish child-Self outbursts, yet this is what most of us do. The child can only be put off for so long & can often be heard screaming in the background. Sounds like a real child? Well, yes it is. Keep in mind that more than likely the child has been allowed to get away with all sorts of obnoxious behaviors & each time a behavior has gone undisciplined, it becomes more firmly etched in the subconscious mind. Each time this particular behavior is triggered, it comes to consciousness wearing a stronger coat. Returning to my pizza ordeal, I was guilty of not managing this particular child of mine for several decades. Can you image "her" powerful coat??

Now you might wonder, if a particular child is so powerful, what chance does one have to return to power & balance? If you have asked this question, perhaps you need to go back & review some of the earlier chapters or blogs. Remember, you are the writer, director & producer of your life. You're in charge. You are the leader, not the child. It really doesn't matter how big or how powerful the child's coat has become. Once you take control of your life, then you run the show, not the child. This is accomplished by commiting fully to self-responsibility, then leading & self-parenting with a calm, assertive manner. If this doesn't come naturally to you, then you need to "pretend" that you have these already present.

RE-PROGRAMMING THE ACTOR SELF
READY ACTION

Go back to the Theater of the Mind & take your seat as "Director." You know the routine. Direct the curtain to open & call in your actorSelf. Position your Therapeutic Self over there. That's right. Now, empty the stage of all emotions, both helpful & not helpful. Have your actorSelf stand alone. Pay attention to the details. Direct the actorSelf to stand taller, present confidence & power. Observe this. Direct the script....spoken words & thoughts. Listen to the power of speech & make any changes. You already know exactly what is needed here. And...when you have completed this, ask your actorSelf to leave the stage & then re-enter, presenting the newly programmed Self. Observe carefully & make any further changes you deem important.

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Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
May not be copied or reproduced without permission of the author.

Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.

http://www.hypnosis-audio.com
http://www.sugar-addiction.com
http://www.international-medical-health-writers.com

Compulsive Crazies - The Office Junk Dealers

I'd like to continue along with the Compulsive Crazies & especially those that are found in the workplace, but before I do that, I'd like to welcome you all back to the ongoing blog/workshop, based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/

NOTE TO NEW READERS:

A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.

A BIT ABOUT COMPULSIVE CRAZIES & JUNK DEALERS

Compulsive Crazies do not just live in the office, but meander through our lives. However, remember that one tends to become like the company one keeps & if you are seriously involved with the compulsive crazies in your office, you are going to draw more towards you in other areas of your life. Remember how the subconscious mind works. I've described it as a servo-mechanism, an internal radar. In this instance, if you are involved in compulsive craziness, you will not only attract more towards yourself, but your very own compulsive crazy mechanism will be highly charged, making it easier to become involved in other bingeing or secret eating behaviors. A very dangerous route & not the way you want to go.

In any office setting there are land mines & most of these involve co-workers.The office is a family of sorts, usually dysfunctional. As far as eating issues are concerned, most offices are very dysfunctional. As you become more aware of what's going on, you will see what I mean. Certain people power-broker with food. As ridiculous as this sounds, those who are in charge of something specific like bringing in the donuts have a special status. Pay attention as they go about their donut business. Throughout this blog/workshop I've suggested that you pay attention to small details for these hold tremendous information & therefore value.

I have a special affinity for the donut people because they have brought so much insight into my own eating issues. In one particular workplace, the donut person was a very over-weight woman who I'll call Anita. Now Anita turned from a donut person to a donut pusher. It happens that donuts are a binge food for me. Just like there's not enough cookes, there are truly not enough donuts. For me, there is no such thing as choosing one donut, even if I'm not hungry, even if my stomach hurts after eating one. This is my sad truth. When I started going through my own eating recovery, I decided not to be involved with donuts. Remember Nancy Reagan....just say "no." Easier said than done with the donut woman. Anita decided that my decision not to eat donuts was not only ruining the "social" donut experience for the rest of the office, but for some reason according to Anita, I now considered myself better than everyone else. Unfortunately, since this happened at the beginning of my "recovery", my emotional children were more difficult to manage, making the donut issue into a mental tug of war.

Most of us have been brought up to be pleasers. That means that people like Anita can truly push our buttons & threaten our food recovery plans. Since we are in the workplace for so many hours, it is very important to work out our own details, running our lives the way that we see fit, taking us towards health & not illness. Because so many people have disorderly eating patterns & are obese, it can truly be a challenge to take on one's own weight loss & maintenance in this type of environment.

Once again, I remind you to review the earlier blog/workshop sections, especially the one's having to do with "owning your own path or life." Remember, you are born alone & will die alone. How you experience the time-line between those two life events, will in a great degree be determined by your choices. Just for a moment pretend that you are driving a car & waiting for a safe time to pull out into traffic. Someone comes behind you, honking their horn, trying to push you. I'm certain that you wouldn't allow that driver to put you in harm's way, would you? And, it is the same for the "office junk dealers." Remember the candy jar? There is no such thing as one piece of candy, one piece of pizza, one brownie, one piece of coffee cake or one donut. There just isn't. Here's the bottom line. If you want to successfully lose weight, manage sugar addiction & maintain a healthy lifestyle, you have to manage yourself in the face of the "office junk dealers" & the "compulsive crazies."

ACT 2 SCENE 2
OFFICE JUNK DEALERS
READY ACTION

Ready to direct this very important part of your life? Remember, your future health outcomes depend on how well you learn to do this. OK...let's go. Enter the Theater of your Mind & take your Directorial seat. You know where it is. Take a moment & feel the confidence you are now building. You are no longer new at this....you are already experienced & that is good to know. In fact, you know what I'm going to write here & that is because you already have these programs well-etched in your own subconscious mind. Fix your gaze on the stage curtain, noticing that it knows to open for you. Everything here works to your benefit. You are in charge. Notice the scene is in your office. Your actorSelf is present. As before, take your time reviewing the details of this scene. If you don't work in an office, play this scene out to meet your own personal life experience. Your Therapeutic Self is sitting to the side in a place of Heightened Awareness. This is important for viewing the smallest of details. Pay attention to an Office Junk Dealer who has entered your life scene. Pay very close attention to what's going on. Are other's present or are you alone? Listen to the conversation....noticing your own thoughts that are clear to you, but not to others.

Emotional children have come on stage. Some belong to you, others belonging to the Office Junk Dealer or others present. Notice the exchanges between the emotional children. Realize now that most interactions are between emotional children & NOT between Therapeutic Selves. This will become important later on when we go further into disciplining emotions. When you have seen enough, interrupt the action. You are now ready to re-program this scene. You already know how to do this, so just go ahead. Call in stage hands, script writers, dismiss unbalanced emotions & enhance those which are balanced. Ask your Therapeutic Self to give each balance emotion a picture of your goal. Make it clear to them what you expect, need & demand. When you have finished, have the scene play out again.

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Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
May not be copied or reproduced without permission of the author.

Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.

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