Sunday, May 24, 2009
I'd like to continue along with the Compulsive Crazies & especially those that are found in the workplace, but before I do that, I'd like to welcome you all back to the ongoing blog/workshop, based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/
NOTE TO NEW READERS:
A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.
A BIT ABOUT COMPULSIVE CRAZIES & JUNK DEALERS
Compulsive Crazies do not just live in the office, but meander through our lives. However, remember that one tends to become like the company one keeps & if you are seriously involved with the compulsive crazies in your office, you are going to draw more towards you in other areas of your life. Remember how the subconscious mind works. I've described it as a servo-mechanism, an internal radar. In this instance, if you are involved in compulsive craziness, you will not only attract more towards yourself, but your very own compulsive crazy mechanism will be highly charged, making it easier to become involved in other bingeing or secret eating behaviors. A very dangerous route & not the way you want to go.
In any office setting there are land mines & most of these involve co-workers.The office is a family of sorts, usually dysfunctional. As far as eating issues are concerned, most offices are very dysfunctional. As you become more aware of what's going on, you will see what I mean. Certain people power-broker with food. As ridiculous as this sounds, those who are in charge of something specific like bringing in the donuts have a special status. Pay attention as they go about their donut business. Throughout this blog/workshop I've suggested that you pay attention to small details for these hold tremendous information & therefore value.
I have a special affinity for the donut people because they have brought so much insight into my own eating issues. In one particular workplace, the donut person was a very over-weight woman who I'll call Anita. Now Anita turned from a donut person to a donut pusher. It happens that donuts are a binge food for me. Just like there's not enough cookes, there are truly not enough donuts. For me, there is no such thing as choosing one donut, even if I'm not hungry, even if my stomach hurts after eating one. This is my sad truth. When I started going through my own eating recovery, I decided not to be involved with donuts. Remember Nancy Reagan....just say "no." Easier said than done with the donut woman. Anita decided that my decision not to eat donuts was not only ruining the "social" donut experience for the rest of the office, but for some reason according to Anita, I now considered myself better than everyone else. Unfortunately, since this happened at the beginning of my "recovery", my emotional children were more difficult to manage, making the donut issue into a mental tug of war.
Most of us have been brought up to be pleasers. That means that people like Anita can truly push our buttons & threaten our food recovery plans. Since we are in the workplace for so many hours, it is very important to work out our own details, running our lives the way that we see fit, taking us towards health & not illness. Because so many people have disorderly eating patterns & are obese, it can truly be a challenge to take on one's own weight loss & maintenance in this type of environment.
Once again, I remind you to review the earlier blog/workshop sections, especially the one's having to do with "owning your own path or life." Remember, you are born alone & will die alone. How you experience the time-line between those two life events, will in a great degree be determined by your choices. Just for a moment pretend that you are driving a car & waiting for a safe time to pull out into traffic. Someone comes behind you, honking their horn, trying to push you. I'm certain that you wouldn't allow that driver to put you in harm's way, would you? And, it is the same for the "office junk dealers." Remember the candy jar? There is no such thing as one piece of candy, one piece of pizza, one brownie, one piece of coffee cake or one donut. There just isn't. Here's the bottom line. If you want to successfully lose weight, manage sugar addiction & maintain a healthy lifestyle, you have to manage yourself in the face of the "office junk dealers" & the "compulsive crazies."
ACT 2 SCENE 2
OFFICE JUNK DEALERS
Ready to direct this very important part of your life? Remember, your future health outcomes depend on how well you learn to do this. OK...let's go. Enter the Theater of your Mind & take your Directorial seat. You know where it is. Take a moment & feel the confidence you are now building. You are no longer new at this....you are already experienced & that is good to know. In fact, you know what I'm going to write here & that is because you already have these programs well-etched in your own subconscious mind. Fix your gaze on the stage curtain, noticing that it knows to open for you. Everything here works to your benefit. You are in charge. Notice the scene is in your office. Your actorSelf is present. As before, take your time reviewing the details of this scene. If you don't work in an office, play this scene out to meet your own personal life experience. Your Therapeutic Self is sitting to the side in a place of Heightened Awareness. This is important for viewing the smallest of details. Pay attention to an Office Junk Dealer who has entered your life scene. Pay very close attention to what's going on. Are other's present or are you alone? Listen to the conversation....noticing your own thoughts that are clear to you, but not to others.
Emotional children have come on stage. Some belong to you, others belonging to the Office Junk Dealer or others present. Notice the exchanges between the emotional children. Realize now that most interactions are between emotional children & NOT between Therapeutic Selves. This will become important later on when we go further into disciplining emotions. When you have seen enough, interrupt the action. You are now ready to re-program this scene. You already know how to do this, so just go ahead. Call in stage hands, script writers, dismiss unbalanced emotions & enhance those which are balanced. Ask your Therapeutic Self to give each balance emotion a picture of your goal. Make it clear to them what you expect, need & demand. When you have finished, have the scene play out again.
Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
May not be copied or reproduced without permission of the author.
Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.