Saturday, May 23, 2009
Welcome back to the ongoing blog/workshop, based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" If you are new to this area, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/
A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.
COMPULSIVE CRAZIES IN THE WORKPLACE
This is a good time to move into some of those "Compulsive Crazies." While these can be found in many different areas of life, I'd like to get into those that live in the workplace. These tend to come up when I'm working with my patients or students & certainly they are personal favorites of mine. As I've mentioned before, I've been in "disorderly eating recovery" for several decades now & know the importance of having lots of tools at my fingertips. So, even if you don't personally experience the exact scenes we're going to practice, the tools for management that I'm presenting can be applied to other areas of your life experience. What's interesting about working hypnotically with the subconscious mind is that the inner mind will go to connect similar "mind files", especially if your is clear, focused & emotionally energized. Working subconsciously is like having an "inner coach" spot checking you, bringing powerful suggestions that may have never entered your mind, into your view, with an action plan already in process. On another note, the more you work with your subconscious mind, the more it will work with you & with easier access.
Now, about those "Compulsive Crazies." I would like to entertain that candy jar in the office. If you work in an office, more than likely there is at least one candy jar & certainly a kitchen or snack area. In addition, looking at your office-mates, there may be the donut & cake people, the popcorners, the "let's order pizza for lunch bunch" & the "you have to try this from my kitchen or you are not my friend" groupies. If you are in the minority & work alone....good for you. Your life is bound to be much easier in this arena.
A little side-step here. When we have weight or disorderly eating issues, we tend to think of the problem as singular. That is why it appears to be so difficult to manage. In reality, we are dealing a multi-faceted problem that needs to be managed with a multi-faceted approach. While this might sound overwhelming, it truly isn't & the good news is that once we get one area under good self-management, the other areas tend to follow, just like children, along the new path. So, here we're going to address the "workplace candy jar" & the undisciplined, disorderly emotions that hang out in the workplace.
ACT 2 SCENE 1
THE OFFICE CANDY JAR & OTHER JUNK
As before, please enter "The Theater of the Mind." You already know the way to your seat. If you've been following along, your subconscious mind is already primed for the experiential work of today. Remember, just reading suggestion in a relaxed state is sufficient for programming your mind. The goal is to disassociate from the automatic pilot programs, observe them carefully without judging them, gathering information that may be seen or not seen consciously & then re-writing & re-directing the scene so that it benefits your goals. In this book or blog/workshop, the goal is to introduce & maintain healthy eating behaviors. Of course, these tools can be utilized in other areas of your life "drama."
What's interesting about "office crazies" is that we don't only have to manage our own compulsive issues, but those of others. This means some additional skill building. For me, these are tremendous fun & once you get familiar with them, I'm sure you'll enjoy them as well. Nothing beats being totally in sync with your Therapeutic or healthy, balanced Self. You'll sense the soaring of self-image & self-esteem, as well as gaining self-respect & the respect of others, even though it may not seem so in the moment. As you develop & build your own self-discipline, thereby taking a leadership position, others will begin to follow you. Don't be surprised is this carries over to other work-related areas, opening your career-track. I've seen it happen many times, so why shouldn't it happen for you? This is an example of non-verbal or subconscious communication, having very powerful consequences.
While I'm going to utilize images for the candy jar, feel free to change this image for any others that I've identified, or that you have in your work experience.
Focus in front of you now. The curtain opens & you can visualize your workplace. Perhaps you are in your space OR in the space where the candy jar lives. Yes, the candy jar "does live." Inanimate things "live." It helps to think in this way, because as I've mentioned before, the subconscious mind loves being entertained with active-creative imagery. The candy jar speaks out, calling to your actorSelf or others who pass-by or even think about it as they sit at their desks. Yes, you do know that this happens because you've heard it calling you, have you not? No more questions about it being "alive." Your Therapeutic Self is standing by the side of the candy jar & making it very clear about what occurs inside your body & mind, even from one sampling, especially without eating protective protein at the same time. Remember, you already know that there are "safer ways" to eat junk.
Your body systems have decided to enter & to speak to you directly about their concerns. You are reminded of how much junk you have already consumed in your life to it's current moment. The junk pile image is clear. What's not clear is how much "negotiating" room you have before a major disease announces itself. Reminding yourself that killer diseases mount one moment at a time & your clock has been ticking for a long while now. Once a disease announces itself, there may be no turning back to it's non-disease position. In other words, once one enters the door of diabetes, it may be very difficult, if not impossible to return to the state of pre-diabetes again. In this position, one has the opportunity to practice prevention & turn back the clock. So, this is not just ONCE PIECE OF CANDY. It's a life choice decision & not just for you, but for all the "future you's" that follow your "today you." Another thought here...."one piece of candy is never, ever enough." Your emotional states will make certain of that & you can see them all gathered around the candy dish....motivating your hand to come forward & reach in. Of course, your emotions are just kids who only care about this moment & not the moments that follow. They are immature & silly....knowing nothing of diabetes or other serious consequences.
I'd like you to tune into the behaviors of your work colleagues. Perhaps notice how they urge you on, rather like your emotional kids. These people are "unbalanced" in this moment in time. They are acting out on the whims of their own emotional children. They are unaware of what they are doing or even saying. They want you to play their game, which unfortunately is a game of Russian roulette. Each of these people walks the path towards the door of killer disease. No one gets away free...the Piper must always be paid. It's just a matter of time.
I'd like you to go ahead & stop the scene now. Go ahead & re-write the script. Perhaps change the set. Edit the emotions. Dismiss the trouble makers & invite in some powerful, postive, focused emotions. When you are satisfied with what you want to happen, go ahead & re-play the Scene. Your subconscious mind is paying close attention to all details.
Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
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Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.