Friday, June 12, 2009
Just as it's normal to practice regression, we all do something called "future-pacing." That means that we talk about the future, as if it were really happening. Not only that, but we emotionalize the images, despite the fact that they are purely fantasy. That's what "worrying" is all about...thought fantasy with negative marinade. Of course, we also "future-pace" with positive emotions, but most of us tend to hang out in the negative realm. A few blog/entries ago I introduced you to the time-line & discussed where that part of your memory resides. For some people it is behind them; others in front. Neither of thes positions work well. It's best to have the future to the right or left, with the past memories running in the other direction. That allows one to observe, edit or plant new images with ease.
When we have disorderly eating or addiction issues we have to be careful with future-pacing negative outcomes. Remember, the subconscious mind does not judge, but just follows what is planted. If you plant future failure, that's what you will experience. If you do not believe in your ability to succeed at changing old behaviors, then you won't be able to do so. It's like driving down a road of potholes that you wished into existence & then finding them there. Start to pay attention to your own thoughts...& then your own words as they tumble off of your tongue. It's also a helpful mind-practice to listen to others programming their negative future goals. You won't have to look far. Listen around the office water-cooler or turn on cable news. Just listen to other people conversing. It's truly amazing. Then, have a look at the written word. If you are a social networker, watch the twitter screen. You won't have to wait long.
There is something else to consider. Negative chatter, as well as negative moods are contagious. People who think like this do want others to join in. Pay attention & see if you can spot the "invitations." Sometimes it will be verbal, but other times it might be a glance or some other non-verbal sign, wanting to pull you into the negativity. If you are with people who gossip, or who are nay-sayers, or who are pessimistic, you should be able to sense their energy. It's truly a mindbody experience. Check you body to see if you can spot tension developing...often in the back, neck or stomach. Notice if you have a desire to back up or even run away. These are all signs that your mindbody wants to move towards a more balanced environment.
When working with disorderly eating, there are often many negative mind-programs already in place. In the past segments, you've had the opportunity to remove & edit some of them. Now, I'd like to teach you some techniqus for protecting yourSelf from negativity, as well as future-pacing only positive goals. Once again, I'll ask you to join me on my personal "train ride", as I take care of some of my business.
NOTE TO NEW READERS:
This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/
A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events
FUTURE PACING TRAIN RIDE
You already know your way to the train station & so I'd like you to come aboard with me. This is my train & we're going to be riding up into my future. As you look out the window, you might be surprised to see many areas are well-planted. We actually plant our future all day long. As you practice "heightened awareness", you will become more cognizant of your own future-planting. Negative-based plants are not healthy looking & you might notice that while I have some, I don't have many. This is not by accident, but instead, by careful review of what's planted & continual removal of any plants that do not serve me well. Of course, this takes some work on my part & careful attention to detail. This is accomplished through daily meditative exercises, which you will be learning, as well as living inside the "golden egg shape" while staying outside of the "circus of the world", as much as possible. If you've been reading along, you are familiar with this imaginology.
We're going to get off the train here. I've noticed some negative plants that actually came from others. I wasn't paying close attention & so they slipped in. I was hanging around some people who were fear-mongering about the economy. I actually remember thinking, "well maybe they are right." That was enough to dig the dirt for the negative plant. Now, while negative things can & do happen, that is very different from planting negative expectations. That is not something we do! Everything on the future time-line is about successful outcomes. Negativity doesn't live here. As I look around the area where this plant was placed, I notice other weeds. These are connected to my stress eating that connects by an under-ground root system to the primary negative planting.
When we are around negative chit-chat, the first thing is to wake-up to what's going on. Conversation, no matter how innocent, forms subconscious mind suggestions, unless you stop it. This can be done quite easily. Since you are already awake to it, simply enter your "golden egg". That mind-exercise tells your subconscious mind that these suggestions are outside of you & not to be planted.
Since I'm in this area of my future, I'll take the opportunity to plant some positive things here. I can do this through actual images of what I want, or I can sprinkle positive affirmations on this whole area. I think I'll do both...
Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
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Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.