Friday, September 11, 2009
While we enter all of the foundational goal-den bricks through deep relaxation, the fourth brick teaches us, while inviting us to practice the intricacies of traveling in & out of the "creative mind" space. While we are all different, we all share the same problems regarding cluttered & chaotic mind space. Without cleaning & clearing the mind space, it simply isn't possible to go effortlessly towards & then into any sort of change. It would be like bringing more stuff into an already overly cluttered room. Once you put it down, you may never be able to locate it again. In addition, one cannot stay motivated in a chaotic state & that is why one of the biggest excuses not to start a lifestyle change is because one's life is already too chaotic.
You know the excuse, "I'll think about going on a diet or stopping smoking, or controlling my spending when my life slow's down a bit, when the children return to school, when my husband get's a job, when my mother's illness is in remission, etc." What's interesting about these excuses is that the individual doesn't realize that life will keep replacing the chaos with more of the same & it will not be until the chaotic mind is disciplined or cleared, that chaos can exit on it's own. The actual process of cleaning & clearing the fourth goal-den brick will open the creative process, where the answers to what's going on are actually located.
While we meander through the four foundational bricks during any given day, in fact many times a day, the fourth brick is the brick of "mind stability or discipline." If we are having difficulty in our first brick, the one having to do with eating, or the exercise brick or the self-esteem brick, we learn to go directly into the fourth brick to clean & clear the debris or chaos that is blocking in the other areas. Once the debris is cleared, then the Creative or Higher Mind will either bring forth the creative answer to the blocking OR will simply motivate you right into the middle of the positive action. So, you can now understand the importance of the fourth brick.
When patients come to my office, they learn the fourth brick FIRST, but not until they give me their garbage. This happens in the first half hour. Sometimes the garbage is very toxic...other times it's just a run-down of things we've all familiar with; not enough time, not enough desire, not enough discipline, not enough goal-setting, not enough self-esteem, not enough understanding of Self. Usually I don't get all the garbage in the beginning, because we have so much & we continually make more because we are still living our "old story." But, at least by clearing the top of the garbage heap, we can make some space to enter the fourth goal-den brick.
None of this is difficult, but on the other hand, none of it is easy....mainly because we are basically living with a very undisciplined mind, with emotions that are running our show or repetively writing our "story." As we work within the fourth brick, we take charge & the emotional-childSelf sits to the side. Notice that we don't kick the childSelf out or lock it in the closet. It's important to discipline this part of the Self & this is accomplished with the child working right by your side, inside the fourth brick.
The process is a discipline in itself. I call it fractionation because I will ask you to break your day down into at least six parts & find a place to be still for three to five minutes. I can hear the excuses already....but that is the childSelf acting out. When I first started fractionating, I found the most interesting places for my silence practice including the stall in the bathroom. In the future, when you fractionate in any "moment", you will be able to go into the fourth brick in the middle of a conversation. That is when you will be the most powerful.
I'll go through the process in a moment, but first...
A NOTE TO NEW READERS:
This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" This book is not published as yet, but you have the opportunity to read it in it's unpublished state. If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/
A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.
MAKING CREATIVE SPACE
We can make Creative Space in any moment, but it is important for us to practice fractionation. This is how we get good at what we do. First, we need to have "intention & desire." Simply put, we have to want to make creative space. That means directing the childSelf to her chair & having her practice with you. Where you do it is up to you. You may have one particular place or a bunch of places as I do. Next, center yourSelf by sitting up in the chair, fingers on the lower abdomen, riding the breath. If your breath is in the chest, bring it down with your mind. This is the releasing or relaxed breath. Now, invite your body to open...I like to scan down my body & observe the cells moving apart. You can make up whatever image or thought your like. Sometimes I feel magnets pulling me down. Next...place a Golden Egg shape around you & simply be inside. This is your private place on the face of the Earth & it if from here that you will simply notice your thoughts, your presenting emotions & your body sensations. First will come one & then another & then another. Each time you notice or become aware of one, simply notice & then sense your fingers riding on your lower abdomen...ride your breath.
In the next blog, I'll continue this process...space is an issue here.
Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
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Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.