Monday, September 07, 2009
There are 4 basic Goal-den bricks that make up the foundation for permanent change, all of them leading to high level health & performance. The bricks sit side-by-side, each one as important as the other & there is no particular order for working inside of them. Everything depends on the activities of the moment & one moves between them, just as if there were doors in place. I've already invited you into three of the bricks & now I'll introduce you to the fourth or final foundational brick, designed for relaxing deeply, centering, releasing tension & thoughts, in preparation for entering the domain of the "Highest Self"....right in the moment. You may be wondering if there are other bricks & of course, there are many, some of them general, such as relationships with significant others, family & friends. There will be bricks for work & prosperity, spiritual life, home & environment & ones related to your future. You may also choose to have other bricks that are specific to your life needs. All of these build on top of the Goal-den brick foundation.
The 4th Goal-den brick is all about "cleaning & clearing" & then keeping our lives in order & balance. If thoughts are not managed, then emotions can't be managed & without this one lives in mental & physical turmoil. We call is "stress", but that is an umbrella word, not really giving us the information we need to bring order out of chaos. Picture a house or a room that is filled top to bottom with an abundance of clutter & disorder. It may have deep surface dirt, but it's impossible to see it, much less take care of it, because it is hidden underneath all the debris. The mind & body can be like this & until there is re-structuring, it is impossible to make a permanent lifestyle change & this is why most fail. There is simply far too much to manage. Life is complicated in this scenario & what is needed is simplicity that is achieved through order & self-discipline.
People who live in disorder often balk at these ideas. This is because they are still existing in the middle of their mess & so, of course, it's easy to understand how these ideas could make them more tense & resistant. This is why the 4 foundation bricks need to be instituted together. While this may seem like a lot of work in the beginning, it only feels that way because the mess is so big. As the disorder begins to lessen, then it actually becomes it's own "behavioral unit"....rather like pushing a stone down a hill. In the beginning one has to get the stone rolling, but after that, the stone rolls by itself. Sometimes it may get stuck in a rut, but then it doesn't take much to get it rolling again.
Most people who live in disorder have never felt true release & centering, especially ongoing. They tend to live their life on a treadmill, going round & round, but never ending up where they truly want to go. Some don't even know where they want to go, the reason being that their lives are so chaotic that there has been no time for creative thought & expression. They are the window-shoppers of the world, believing that they cannot have what they want, either because they are unworthy or have not been given the opportunities that others have received. These beliefs tend to lead to more of the same, locking the person in a jail-like life. The truth of the matter is that the key to opening the door is right within reach.
Before I go into some practical applications, I'd like to welcome new readers...
A NOTE TO NEW READERS:
This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/
A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.
Relaxing deeply does not mean sitting in front of the television or even reading a book. It means being "still", both inwardly & outwardly. It means putting regular time aside for entering stillness & observing the activities of your mind. It means observing the thoughts & connected emotions as they pass through, just like watching traffic from the curb. You are not in the traffic, but just observing it. Thoughts are things & they come through in categories, accompanied by the emotions that engage them. I've written several blog entries about thoughts & emotions, as well as the physical or body components that respond to them. Physical stressors... When you enter stillness you will be able to sense them, in fact they may actually scream out, especially in the area of the neck, shoulders & gut. As you sit in stillness as the observer of these things, you come to know much more about what helps & what hinders. Simply observing is a part of releasing. Noticing a thought, emotion or physical sensation, perhaps labeling it & then breathing from your center, sends a message to your subconscious mind that you don't need or want that right now. If it's something negative, you don't want it at all, but when sitting in stillness, it's important to release everything, thereby opening the creative space & pathway to the Higher Self.
I'll continue this discussion in the next blog...
Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
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Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.