Tuesday, June 30, 2009
In most life experiences, we get into trouble when we are hanging out solely with our "immature Self." This goes double for dealing with the many aspects of disorderly eating or addiction. Sometimes it seems it's just the emotions we employ & how we think in their presence, but remember, to the subconscious mind, all thoughts are goal requests, acting like radar & pulling aspects of those desires towards us. Suppose you're in the supermarket & the smell of donuts permeates the air. The immature Self senses the opening & starts moaning & groaning about wanting one. Heighened sensory images can be very powerful, especially the sense of small. If you entered the supermarket without your Mature Self in place, then the immature Self has all the power. Not what we want when dealing with addictive eating.
The Mature Self is not just about discipline, for it's much more than that. This part of the Self enhances the self-image & self-esteem, thereby forming your inner power-base. When the self-image & self-esteem are strong, it's much easier to pedal through life.....less falls & less skinned knees.
When we are working to change disorderly or addictive eating, we need the Therapeutic or Mature Self to be ever present.We also know this Self as the Parent, Teacher & Doctor. The immature Self is comprised of the child, student & patient. We needour Mature Self to be strong & powerful & filled with hot, passionate desire. We need it to be assertive & to stand very tall in the face of opposition.
Those of us who have been engaged in fighting unhealthy weight or eating issues know how difficult it can be to stay on the bicycle & to keep it from wobbling on scary terraine. It's seems so easy to fall off, sometimes finding the Self wanting to fall off, as strange as that might seem, but if it's happened to you, you do know what I'm talking about here. Usually in the moment of the fall, the immature or addictive Self arrives, making it difficult to get back on & pedal forward. Remember, immature Self is both creative & incorrigable, loving weakness & always ready to jump in with compassion for the injuries, eager to share it's backpack of bandaid excuses. On the other hand, the Mature Self has a completely different agenda following any fall. The Mature Self is about courage, responsibility, discipline & persistence. This is not a willy-nilly Self, but one brings strength, self-respect & power to the moment.
As you come into heightened awareness, it will be easier to notice your immature Self. In the past, it was probably successful in hiding from you, but not any longer. You have chosen to see it & this is a very good thing to do. Once it is exposed, it can be healed & then brought into the desired goal with good discipline. In fact, you will want to encourage your inner mind to show you even more immature aspects of your personality.....the more you see or become aware of, the more you can heal & the more powerful you can become at riding your bicycle, perhaps taking paths that you have never explored before. Let me share some ways to go about doing this & at the same time show you how to stay energized through your daily rides.
But first....NOTE TO NEW READERS:
This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/
A bit of background.... we are working with creative Interactive Self-Hypnosis imagery, planting suggestions directly into the creative subconscious mind as you read along. What appears like a story is a series of self-hypnotic sessions, designed to bring about desired lifestyle changes. The inner mind is creative & rather child-like, loving to play with images, especially when they are emotionalized. Just like the saying, "a picture is worth a thousand words", well-planted mind images, can be worth hours of therapy. We can actually change or motivate in 1/200th of a second. So come along & look forward to some lifestyle-changing events.
PEDALING THE DAILY PATH
In previous blog/workshop entries you built a few Pods on your path. Later on I'll help you to construct even more of these, but for now, let's talk about how you transport yourSelf between the Pods. For this, you'll be riding your "bicycle." Even if you don't know how to ride one, in the practice of Interactive Self-Hypnosis, you do ride very well. In fact, you're impressed with how well you ride....perfectly balanced with lots of power in those legs, truly propelling you forward. You are happy & delighted with your talents & strength. Sense that now.
Of course, there are pebbles, even some stones on your daily path. This is normal & natural, so you are accepting of them, actually gaining confidence as you navigate your bicycle through them. Yes, it does take more energy, but this is of little concern because you have an ongoing energy source to refill yourSelf. Let me show you where it is. I'll pedal my bicycle ahead of you, so follow me down the Path to the right. At the end you will see a big light, just like the powerful sun. There is a chair there for you & a guest chair for me. Park you bicycle over there & come sit down with me. Make yourSelf comfortable. Tilt your eyes slightly upward, closing them after you read these instructions. You can sense the power of the light as it touches your head, your face & enters your body. This is your Source...your HigherSelf. It's desire is to refill you for your life journey. The more frequently you come here, the quicker you will be able to refill, because you will never be "on empty." Empty desire or energy puts you at risk for immature activities. Remember, the immature self is motivated by weakness.
In the next blog/workshop, I'll invite you to open your mind to more Gifts from your Source, thereby building your self-image & self-esteem.
Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
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Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children.